Getting People to Like You
Peter Murphy
Making friends and influencing people can sometimes seem like a game
you cannot win. You want to be liked and somehow this gets in the way.
The harder you try the more tense you get until it seems much easier to
simply give up.
The great irony is that when you are carefree about whether people like
you they tend to like you much more. Why? Because people pick up on the
energy you exude. When you feel good about yourself they sense that and
reflect this positive energy back to you.
On the other hand when you feel unsure, timid or nervous it makes
others feel unsure about dealing with you. They sense that you are
tense and avoid you.
Thankfully, there are three simple steps to getting people to like you...
1. Relax
Before important social gatherings make a point of relaxing. Spend 20
minutes in meditation, listening to relaxing music or visualising how
you want to perform when you meet people.
By doing so you will feel more relaxed later on when you meet people
because it will take the edge off the tension you usually feel.
2. Decide to Like Yourself More
Although this sounds kind of odd it is a very important principle to take on board.
The more you like and appreciate yourself the more comfortable you will
be when you introduce yourself to new people. When you feel good about
yourself it is natural to smile and express yourself with confidence.
People will warm to you. You will become the person everyone wants to meet.
3. Be Carefree
It is extremely important to let go of needing everyone to like you.
This puts you under too much pressure to be all things to all people.
While it is good to get along with most people don't demand that
everyone has to like you. The real issue here is the fear of rejection.
If you do not deal with this fear you will never be able to let your
personality shine.
When you no longer worry about what people think of you it is like a huge weight has been taken off your shoulders.
You will feel carefree, relaxed and even excited about meeting new people. You deserve to feel like this.
If you don't feel great about dealing with people you are missing out
on all the happiness and joy that comes from having a rich social life
full of wonderful friends who appreciate and respect you.
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