How To Be Confident Even When
Others Treat You Harshly
by Peter Murphy
There are times when others will treat you harshly even if you don´t deserve such treatment.
And the resulting lack of self-confidence is sometimes made worse by the way you talk to yourself...
It does no good to think negative thoughts about yourself and admonish
yourself for "saying the wrong thing" to someone or feel that you've
messed up again in your relationship with others.
This type of thinking only further reinforces the fact that you have little or no self-confidence.
You are someone special. You are smart. You are interesting and appealing to others.
You have a message for the world, and you need to learn to get the
message out. A few suggestions here can help you project the image you
want to world to see.
1. It's
not always about you. Maybe the person you think slighted you has had a
bad day, or heaven forbid, maybe the person just isn't nice.
You can
turn the situation around by asking some general, interesting questions
about the person. This may bring the person out of the bad mood and who
knows, you might put a little sunshine into someone else's life for a
change.
2.
Quit taking everything so personally. Accept the fact that some people
just aren't socially adept, and they may have even less self-confidence
than you do.
Don't let
someone else spoil your day. Don't respond to negative feelings and
above all, don't let yourself be provoked. Think positive to keep your
emotions in check. Negative thoughts sap your energy and serve no
purpose.
3.
Do you think you're the only one out there who gets rejected? Think
again! There are selfish people who only think "me, me, me" to the
exclusion of everyone else.
Even the
most successful people are rejected (singer/songwriter Rod Stewart was
rejected several times because his voice was "too gravelly and coarse."
He didn't give up and today is rich and famous.)
4. Don't give up. The old saying, "if at first you don't succeed, try again" holds true for the person with no self-confidence.
If things
don't go your way, come up with an alternate plan. If that's not
accepted (remember, it not about you; it's about an idea) keep trying.
5. Stop
focusing on yourself and dwelling on your perceived shortcomings all
the time. Focus instead on your goals and what you have to do to
achieve them.
Stop
talking about yourself all the time. Other people get tired of hearing
about you constantly. Concentrate on a genuine conversation about other
people and other topics.
With a little self-help, you can overcome your feelings of inadequacy and learn how to be confident.
While you
are honing your skills at becoming confident, the image you want to
project is one of a person who is in command of self and someone worth
knowing and sharing ideas and conversations with.
And I
have already given you two very powerful, practical ways to feel super
confident whenever you need to be at your very best.
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